Pets hold a special place in our hearts, often becoming beloved members of our families. Unfortunately, just like humans, many pets can face terminal illnesses such as cancer. According to global statistics from the International Agency for Research on Cancer (IARC), cancer affects millions of pets worldwide. Approximately 6 million dogs and 6 million cats are diagnosed with cancer each year globally. Cancer is a leading cause of mortality in older dogs and cats, highlighting the prevalence and impact of this disease on our beloved furry companions. In this blog post, you’ll find practical ways to support someone facing pet cancer or a terminal illness.
1. Reach Out and Show You Care
Let your loved one know that you’re there for them during this difficult time. Recognize that it may be challenging for them to reach out. They might find it hard to share their feelings since they worry others won’t understand how deeply they care about their pet’s sickness. While others might not want to be a burden. Be proactive. You can send them a text message like, ‘Just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you and Buckeye and sending you both a big hug.’ Or let them them know when you have time to talk and then just listen. You don’t have to say much, your attention alone can be very comforting.
2. Provide Comfort Through Food
When facing pet cancer or a terminal illness, the last thing on a pet parent’s mind may be taking care of themselves. Consider buying them some groceries, take out or preparing a home cooked meal to deliver to their doorstep. Meals they can freeze and eat later are also good choices. I remember feeling so touched when a friend surprised me with a care package full of my favorite teas and snacks. Small gestures like these can make a big difference in brightening someone’s day.
3. Be a Supportive Listener
Your loved one may be bombarded with information about their pet’s illness, treatment options and sometimes anticipatory grief. Instead of offering strong opinions or advice, simply be there to listen. Avoid bringing up the end unless they do, as this can be a difficult and sensitive topic. Don’t diminish their feelings with statements like, “Well, Buckeye’s had a good long life.” Acknowledge their feelings and provide a safe space for them to express their emotions without judgment. If at a loss for words, you can say “I hear you” and “That sounds really tough” which are both empathetic and supportive.
4. Offer Practical Support
In addition to emotional support, offering practical assistance can be incredibly helpful. Offer to run errands, take care of household tasks, or drive/accompany them to vet appointments. I remember trying to smile and be brave for my dog, but feeling very alone as we went to weekly vet appointment. Offer to pet sit, allowing your loved one to go out for a bit of fresh air or take a break from caregiving responsibilities. Many pet parents have to manage full time jobs and some sleepless nights. Lending a helping hand will provide much-needed relief during this challenging time.
5. If Possible Offer Some Financial Assistance
Pet cancer treatment can be financially draining, adding an extra burden to an already difficult situation. The cost of vet bills can weigh heavily on pet owners, but most hesitate to burden others. If you’re in a position to help and willing consider offering financial assistance or small gift cards, even in a small amount. This can help alleviate some of the financial strain. Whether it’s giving a card with a bit of cash inside, a gift card to a pet supply store or offering to cover a portion of their pet’s medical expenses, your gesture of support will be deeply appreciated and always remembered.
As a single, childless woman, my dog holds an incredibly special place in my heart. She is my family and also part of my identity. When she was diagnosed with lymphoma, I was devastated. However, with the practical and financial support of wonderful friends and my family, we got through her 6 month chemotherapy journey together. She made it to remission. They made a big difference, and I’ll alway be grateful for their support and love throughout that challenging time.
Your presence and support can really make a world of difference to someone in a similar situation.
